Our youngest is navigating middle school. This is her second year, but her first without a sister, as my oldest two are now in high school. Whew, we are off to a tough start.
Let me just say that my youngest is awesome. She is super creative and energetic, but her highs are high and her lows are low (isn’t that all of us?).
As we head into the third week, a very common challenge has sprung up: gym. As a kid, I was fast, but that didn’t earn me much in gym as I was like 4 foot 3. I was picked on, and I hated the whole locker room. As best as I can tell, the lack of a close friend seems to be the culprit in this case.
As we headed to school, Em’s just didn’t want to go. Since there is a 10 min gap between dropping off my high schoolers and going to the middle school, I took the opportunity to try to soothe her.
We talked about David and King Saul in 1 Samuel 24. This is the story about David cutting off the corner of Saul’s robe while David hid in a cave and Saul relieved himself (for real). As soon as David cuts of the corner of the robe, he immediately repents. He runs out to Saul, lies prostrate on the dust, and confesses his sin.
How risky! Saul wants to kill David, but David knows that he has disrespected the Lord’s anointed and sinned. The two leave in peace, and we have a great testimony about how to interact with authority, loving our enemies, and an example of repentance.
Em and I talked about his. I ask her if anyone in there is her enemy. She says no. Then we talked bout how to bless the people in her class. We come up with this plan. She is going to begin the class by praying for herself – praying that God would sustain her when she is miserable in gym. Then, she is going to look at each person in the class. She knows their names. Then, she is going for God to bless each one of them. It will take most of the class to get through every person’s name and to pray for them. Then, she is going to pray for herself again. My encouragement is that I am sure that God will bless her if she is praying that God will bless them.
Will she find new friends? Will gym by enjoyable? We’ll see, but the time will be redeemed if she blesses those that she feels alienated from, and that is a pretty sweet work of the Gospel.
Middle school is tough. Emotionally loving (and sometimes nudging) your kids is a challenge, but we trust God sustains our kids and ourselves as we seek to bless the world.
Gordon Duncan
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